I’ve been slacking on my journaling. Chalk it up to lack of
suffering. I need more grist to inform this artistic expression. So today I am
reaching out to external forces.
If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you may
remember meeting Bob Russell. He was
diagnosed with esophageal cancer about a year ahead of me and made the time to
visit me on my first day of chemotherapy.
He was a great source of encouragement and wisdom for me. I’d been thinking about him a lot lately and
wondering how his treatments were working.
He does not really tell of his progress on Facebook (nor do I) but I
could see by photos posted there that he had lost some weight. I decided to make a long overdue trip up
north to stay with my mom and dad and then make a side trip to the Mission
Point peninsula, where Bob runs a bed & breakfast, on the way home.
After a Sunday morning, uneventful trip up to Glen Arbor, I
arrived at Mom & Dad’s place and got to first spend some time with Mom
alone as she prepared for a church function and then later some one-on-one time
with Dad after he returned from watching an Opera at a Traverse City movie
theater with his brother, Rich. Dad
enjoyed telling me about how he and Rich were pretty much alone in the theater
and that was typically the case at this particular venue. (These are not the
LIVE Metropolitan Opera performances that are well attended at the State
Theater.)
I took some time to analyze and then rewire their new
television set-up so that they could watch VHS tapes in addition to DVDs. Dad has a huge collection of opera
performances on VHS. We chatted a bit
and then went over to Art’s Tavern for Dinner.
We split a delicious Michigan IPA, brewed in Kalamazoo.
Monday morning, we invited Rich (and my Aunt Alyce) over for
a visit where I gabbed a little bit too much and then after we bid them adieu, my
parents and I decided to check out the Leelanau Sands Casino and have lunch
there. I’d been hearing reports about
how Dad had been gambling my inheritance away and thought I’d check out the
experience first hand.
It was an absolutely beautiful drive up to Suttons Bay. I
certainly “get” that part of the ritual.
We decided to have lunch first and we trotted over to the cafeteria
where the soup and salad bar was highly recommended. For 6 bucks each, we loaded up on salads,
soups and ice cream sundaes and I have to say we were all highly satisfied with
our meals. (The Dutchman in me always
laments the small stomach I now carry around in my chest, especially in the
proximity of an all-you-can-eat buffet.)
As we left the dining area, a young girl chased me down to
show me that I had dropped my iPod. It
felt so nice to have that sweet encounter with honesty right out of the gate.
On the walk over to the penny slots, Dad pointed out how the
casino supplied all the coffee you could drink at no charge, as he helped
himself to a cup.
The penny slots, I learned, are a gateway
drug. The bells and the lights point out
when you are winning and it seems like every third or fourth pull returns a one
or two cent return. These particular
games are based on a Draw Poker hand and if you should happen to be dealt an
electronic Royal Flush, you could rake in 40 cents! It can take a very long time to lose your
whole dollar bill- Dad’s maximum investment per trip to the casino. When he is
not wagering one-cent bets or enjoying hot coffee, he’s watching people; taking
in the sights and the sounds. I do feel
like my inheritance is fairly safe.
On this trip, Dad was simply a kibitzer. He gave Mom and I
each a dollar, showed us how the game worked, and then stood over our shoulders
and cheered us on as a dealt pair turned into 3 of a kind with the draw. I hovered around 80 cents for quite a long
time and finally switched to nickel bets to make the totals go up and down
faster. I have to admit that the bigger
bets were more fun. Uh-oh!
The ride back to Glen Arbor was once again just
glorious. I quickly packed my bag, said
goodbye and launched for Bob Russell’s place on Mission Peninsula.
I was low on gas but decided to fill up on the way back home
since I was running late. I was pleased
to see that gas prices were comparatively quite low in Traverse City. The drive up Mission Peninsula hugs the beach
so it was an visually spectacular drive.
I envied Bob’s commute.
When I arrived at the Neahtawanta Inn, I saw Bob shoveling
snow off the walk. He was indeed
skinnier but he was a sharp as ever. I
received the grand tour of the inn along with its renovation history. A big group had just left and Sally decided
to go cross-country skiing while Bob and I sat in the library and sipped hot
tea. I learned that Sally’s family also
had a cottage on Glen Lake in Burdickville, very close to our family’s little
piece of heaven on earth. At one point, he got up to feed the boiler with wood
and he showed me how it heated all the rooms (with hot water). It toggled to fuel oil overnight so they
would not have to stoke it in odd hours.
Bob first showed me all the new things he was up to with
video production and website building, all promoting healthy ecology. We eventually got into a discussion about the
progression of his cancer. It had
metastasized to his brain in two places and he was receiving chemo and
radiation treatments. The latter
involved a plastic mesh facemask that was bolted to a platform for precisely
placed radiation pulses. He was
unbelievably positive and optimistic and had been studying some new treatments;
one that involves the Ebola virus as a chemo-delivery system and another that
works by maximizing your own immune system.
He also regularly uses Chinese medicine and practices yoga.
Sally returned from her ski expedition. Temperatures were rising and snow was turning
to slush. It was dusk and time for me to
head back to Grand Rapids. We vowed to
stay in touch and I drove off energized by the encounter. I quickly observed that during our 2-hour
visit, gas prices had risen 30 cents per gallon. I pondered the nature of time and
transformation on my foggy ride home.
In a shocking postscript, I just learned that less than a
week after that visit, the Inn had a devastating fire. If you read this article, you can pick up on
Bob’s incredible optimism in the face of multiple adversities. You can also gather how much his community
appreciates him.
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